Parents are a force to be reckoned with, whether they’re a stay-at-home mom or a high-profile parent, so when they’re not around the kids, the kids are going to feel the pressure.
They’re going to need to make sure they’re doing all the things that are right for them, especially if they have a kid with autism spectrum disorder.
And that’s a tough thing for people to deal with.
“I’m always a little skeptical when I’m with my kids and I ask them if they think it’s okay to go to the grocery store,” said Kristy Rask, a mother of four children with autism and a freelance writer in Santa Barbara, Calif.
“And they’re like, ‘Yes, mom, it’s a privilege.
“The way I see it, a parent with autism is not a good parent,” Rask said. “
“They’re a person who’s been through some pretty traumatic things and are not capable of making a decision that’s right for their kids. “
The way I see it, a parent with autism is not a good parent,” Rask said.
And I don’t think they understand that they don’t want to do that.” “
So when you’re with your kids, you need to be clear that you don’t need to do anything they’re afraid to do, that they’re going the right way.
And I don’t think they understand that they don’t want to do that.”
Some parents have taken to saying that if they’re uncomfortable with their child doing something that’s not normal, then they’re too much.
“When I was with my daughter for about two months I had to get a permit to go into the grocery and the store because she was walking out the front door,” said Jennifer Lee, who has a toddler with autism who loves playing with toys and playing outside.
“She’d always be walking around.
When she would start walking, I’d have to make her get out of the way.
I’ve never been so afraid to leave my kids.
And then I have to get the permit to walk the next day,'” she added. “
But when you see your kid doing something and they’re in the grocery, they’re thinking, ‘I can’t go because I’m worried that I’ll be arrested.
And then I have to get the permit to walk the next day,'” she added.
“That’s not okay.”
While the issue is often a concern for parents who want to take their children to the doctor, it can also cause some anxiety.
“It’s hard to know if it’s really going to be OK for them to be outside, if they can get to the mall, if it really is a safe environment for them,” Lee said.
One of the biggest problems with parents trying to be more supportive, said Rask and Lee, is that they make themselves feel guilty.
“If you’re really concerned about how much pressure your child is putting on you, and you don to give it a shot, that’s just a lot of pressure,” Lee added.
In addition to having to make a decision, parents also have to be able to articulate the consequences for failing to do the right thing.
“Kids are kids,” Rach said.
“[It’s] a tough balance, and parents who are really good at it have to really make sure that the child isn’t going to do something that they feel they can’t or shouldn’t do.”
For some parents, that means taking action, such as having a child’s social worker review the case and make recommendations for what kind of activities and things should be permitted for the child.
“You can’t have your child be doing things you don